Whether you loved, were in-love, falling out of love, falling deep IN-love, or simply had a basic connection with someone you thought might in-fact go somewhere…we all need that little reminder on how to survive once that love runs away, dissolves, or goes up into flames.
Many people avoid this step. In-fact, some don’t do it at all which is actually extremely unhealthy. Cry about it, let it out, retreat to your room for a couple of nights. There will be a day when you wake up and simply cannot cry anymore.
SO. Please – just cry it out as much as you can.
I do not care what you have to do, who you have to ask, or how much your body says no. You need to get up at least three times a week and break a sweat for more than 20 minutes at a time. This helps your brain feel normal, energized, and helps you focus that emotional energy.
3. Adopt Something New.
Whether it is a new pet or hobby, adopt something new into your routine. Something that brings you joy, something that teaches you new things – the key here is to focus your old relationship energy into something new, that can grow, develop, and be beneficial to your life.
4. Be Social.
I am not saying you need to be at the bar every weekend – in-fact, I would highly advise against that but Wine Nights with the girls, or hiking with some friends can really be as therapeutic as talking to a therapist (but for way less money).
5. Have Hope.
I know this sounds like it could contradict all the progress you are trying to make especially if you are hoping the relationship comes back together – but truly, have hope. Have hope in the fact that your life is OK and is about to get better. Have hope that you in-fact are growing and changing although these circumstances seem negative. Have hope that things are working out exactly how they are supposed to.
6. Practice Being You.
Ah! My favorite actually. Practice being you…the most liberating thing you could do for yourself. With all your extra time, you actually HAVE time to find yourself again. You have time to figure out what you like and don’t like about yourself. You have the time to practice being your authentic self in each situation that life presents you. And with that, without judgement too. Crazy! I find a lot of comfort in this particular statement because sometimes (without knowing) people can keep you from growing into yourself.
Reminder that your love is the only love truly FOR you. The love that will show up for you each day. Solidify that and the rest will come.